Reflections: Mourning

Deep grief has to work itself out.  It cannot be ignored.  Talking to and about the lost one helps, reliving and rehashing, bringing the events close at hand again, touching gently the memory, then harder, to poke the sore point again and again until the pain begins to recede and morph into an altogether different pain.  There is a physical energy involved in this process, which is a stripping of raw nerve from the very heart.
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